What Are Some Ways You Can Identify A Narcissist

What are some ways you can identify a narcissist. Everyone is different, but most Narcissists (especially the Exhibitionistic ones) exhibit many of the following behaviors; Self-Centeredness: They are only interested in their own opinions. They rarely can stay tuned in when others start talking about themselves. They do not care what is happening in other people’s lives. Dominates Conversations: Because of their continual need to feed their self-esteem by exhibiting thenselves to an admiring and attentive audience, they are likely to continually talk about themselves to the point where it becomes difficult to have a normal conversation. No matter what the topic, they are likely to bring it back to focus on them. Complains: Many Narcissists continually complain about other people’s behavior: This waiter did not bring them their food order promptly, that person insulted them, and so on. Name Calling: Everyone who does not live up to their standards gets an unflattering label: “He is a jerk,” “She is a bitch,” “They are idiots.” Low on Empathy: If you are sick, have just lost your job, or got dumped by your lover, they do not care. They may try and keep up a fascade of interest because they know that this is socially expected, but they will quickly turn the conversation back to them. Status Hierarchies: They are preoccupied with status markers and are always aware of everyone’s status according to their standards. They are interested in becoming friends with those “above” them; they devalue, ignore, or condenscend to those they consider “below” them; and fight for dominance with those who dare to consider themselves equal to them. Over Sensitive: They will respond with rage to small slights to their sense of importance that most people would ignore. Hyper-Critical: If you listen closely to what they say, everyone in the world except them (and whomever they currently idealize) is doing everything wrong. Of course, eventually they will find fault with you as well. Shame: When their grandiosity is punctured even slightly and there is no one else to blame, they can start devaluing themselves in exactly the same overly harsh way. If I were to be asked for the quickest way to diagnose Narcissism, I would say: Look for the four S’s that I talk about above Self-Centered. Status-Seeking. Sensitivity. Shame.

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